I don't say those words anymore... I've realized that no contracts have been made. By that, I mean; when we are born there is never any promise made that there would be more good than bad.
I'm not sure about you but Personally.. I can't find any documentation that states: "Person, if anything bad ever happens to you, you must feel a colossal degree of dissatisfaction and angst and immediately find someone to hold responsible..... as this goes against the promissory note you were given at birth dumb dumb!!!!!"
No one ever said that in this lifetime we will live without any heartache. We have become fools to think that we should.
The only concrete thing that is known, the day we join the league of humanity is that; we have one single chance to fully embrace this experience of life.
That is how being alive is unequivocally fair.
To fully experience what it means to be alive we must have it all! The moments of joy, the hurting things, the things that crush us and that lift us up. We must witness the light and dark parts of humanity. We might also be preyed upon; as are most living creatures.
If we fail to understand this, we are missing the point. Many of us will live and die having missed the point.
When we don't embrace this fact, (the fact that no one promised you a life of pure pleasure) is when we become victimized.
To me, being a victim is like saying you want to die (metaphorically speaking). It's you..deploring how your life has been presented to you and lamenting how the choices you have made, make it so that you cannot cope.
It's not difficult to become a victim. All you have to do is say; "why me?" or blame somebody else or feel like you've somehow been shortchanged or numb yourself out to all of your feelings, hide behind a drug, avoid agony, spend your life trying to go back and revisit all of the hurtful things you've experienced.
If only you could wake up everyday and give thanks for life and I mean ALL of it. "Thank you for the beauty of it all, thank you for the pain I receive, thank you for allowing me to make this journey". To dissolve the illusion that pain is not a perfectly acceptable part of life is to open up your soul to the bounty you have received.
There are choices.
We could treat every arduous moment in life like the crack of a whip, enslaving us and bleeding us out.
We could treat every arduous moment in life like an opportunity for evolution....
As all creatures evolve only because things get tough.